浪漫关系中共情与冲突解决的性别差异
Gender Differences in Empathy and Conflict Resolution in Romantic Relationships
摘要: 近期“为什么我男朋友在明知我生气的情况下,不哄我而是给我讲道理?”的帖子引发民众热议。本文整理浪漫关系中的相关研究发现,男女在共情能力和冲突解决策略的选择上的性别差异是发生冲突的主要原因之一。另外,揭示男女在共情及冲突解决上的性别差异并进行共情训练,可以让彼此互相理解,从而减少冲突的发生。
Abstract: The recent post “Why does my boyfriend not coax me but reason with me when he knows I’m angry?” has sparked heated discussions among the public. This paper organizes related studies in romantic relationships and finds that gender differences in empathy and conflict resolution strategies are one of the main reasons for conflict. In addition, revealing gender differences in empathy and conflict resolution between men and women and conducting empathy training can help each other understand each other and reduce the occurrence of conflicts.
文章引用:赵鑫. 浪漫关系中共情与冲突解决的性别差异[J]. 社会科学前沿, 2022, 11(7): 2895-2900. https://doi.org/10.12677/ASS.2022.117396

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