自我关怀对亲密关系的影响及成因
The Influence and Causes of Self-Compassion on Close Relationship
DOI: 10.12677/AP.2022.1210416, PDF,   
作者: 王志武:华东师范大学心理与认知科学学院,上海
关键词: 自我关怀亲密关系成因Self-Compassion Close Relationship Causes
摘要: 自我关怀意味着在自己痛苦的时候,用关心和支持的态度对待自己。自我关怀不仅有利于身心健康,还可以提升亲密关系的质量。本文主要介绍了自我关怀对于亲密关系的影响,包括自我关怀在亲子关系、伴侣关系和朋友关系中的作用,并从共情和情绪调节能力以及生理学的角度解释了影响的成因。最后,本文对未来的研究提出了一些展望,认为可以进一步探索自我关怀对亲密关系的影响机制,以及研究自我关怀的干预对于亲密关系质量改善的作用。
Abstract: Self-compassion means treating yourself with care and support when you are in pain. Self-compassion is not only good for physical and mental health, but it can also improve the quality of close relationships. This paper mainly introduces the influence of self-compassion on close relationship, including the impact self-compassion has on parent-child relationship, intimate relationship and friendship, and explains the causes of the influence from the perspective of empathy and emotion regulation ability and physiology. Finally, this paper puts forward some prospects for future research, suggesting that we can further explore the influence mechanism of self-compassion on intimate relationship, and find out the effect of self-compassion intervention on the improvement of close relationship quality.
文章引用:王志武 (2022). 自我关怀对亲密关系的影响及成因. 心理学进展, 12(10), 3419-3427. https://doi.org/10.12677/AP.2022.1210416

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